Dating Tips Online - A fork in the road

Here we have offer you again useful dating tips online. One of our readers sent as a question regarding their dating and sex life. Read on and learn what our residence doctor and expert can say about that.

Dear Doctor:
I am a single, 33 year old man. I come from a divorced family, so marriage had really never been an option in my life, since I feared repeating my parents’ story. Nevertheless, I have reached a time in my life, where I am financially secure, have a car, a home, have travelled and I find something is missing…that something is a partner to share it all with. Because I don’t really look my age, I am always coming across women who are much younger than me and thus, aren’t really marriage material.

Presently I am torn between two women, both of which are willing to move in with me. One is 24, beautiful, sweet, caring and would make a great mom…but she is not the type of woman who intelectually is my equal. She hasn’t gone to college and really has no ambition to, nor does she have a job. The other one is almost 30, has her own car, lives on her own, has a profession and is successful at it…but I don’t know, there’s just something missing with her. I am really torn between this decision because I feel I am ready and if only I could blend these two, I’d have the perfect woman for me. What do I do?

Dear Reader:
Coming from a divorced home is not easy and in many cases, if not handled properly by the adults in charge, the children are wounded in ways that are extremely hard to heal. Sometimes we’re not even aware of these wounds until we have a partner of our own and all these fears start coming to the surface. In your case, it’s good that you consciously know that all these reservations you have are directly linked to your parents’ divorce… that gives you perspective when analyzing the facts.

Although some people might differ, I tend to agree with you when you say that youth is not compatible with marriage. I truly believe that marrying somebody should become an option once you’ve reached a certain level of maturity. Not that age ensures success but if you’re at a point in life where you’re grown up and know what you want, it will make for a much smoother ride.